If you’re afraid to make a mistake – you’re interferring
with the very process that makes you successful. This is
a tough lesson for so many people to learn. Mistakes are
not the end of the world; they’re your ticket to a whole new
existence.
This evening I sat in the sauna with my son, Frank, talking
about what it takes to get good at anything. He’s only six,
but he’s primed and ready for knowledge on how to build
a powerful self-image.
“Could you tell me about something you didn’t used to be able
to do?” I asked. “Something that used to be hard for you but now
it’s easy.”
“Throwing a football,” he immediately said.
“Okay, what else?”
“Catching a football.”
“And …?”
“Punching and kicking.”
“Okay, great. Can you think of anything else?”
“Hmmm, I guess writing.”
“Any idea how many things you’ve forgotten? How about
learning to roll over, to crawl, to stand, to walk, to run, to
get dressed, to feed yourself, and so on.”
Frank’s eyes went wide with wonder.
“All of these things were once very difficult for you. You
struggled with them. You made a ton of mistakes. Yet now
you can do them a lot, lot easier, right?”
“Right.”
“Do you know what this means?” I asked. “It means that anything
you want to learn, the same rules will apply. At first you’ll make
mistakes. You’ll struggle. Then you’ll make fewer mistakes because
the mistakes are teaching you WHAT to do. Then, if you pay attention
like you have so far, you’ll be able to do the new thing, too. It’s as
simple as that. But if you whine and complain and cry about your mistakes,
you’ll never get anywhere. You’ll think poorly about yourself and you’ll get
results that don’t make you happy.”
I talked with Frank for 15 minutes about the value mistakes have in life –
and I’ll be reinforcing this talk over and over again.
Of course, this is only a lesson for six-year old kids. I don’t know of a single
adult who could benefit from this knowledge.
HA.
All of us can.
Don’t fear mistakes. Use them as the corrective feedback they truly are. Mistakes
lead to greatness – but only if you stop judging them as bad.
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