[Quick Note to those who already have a copy of Expect to Win – Hate to Lose, make sure you re-read Chapter Six on a regular basis. It goes much deeper than you may think.]
Hi [First Name],
There are a lot of self-help gurus who tell you to “announce your goals” to the world, to let everyone know what your plans are – in advance.
The theory is that doing so will force you to take action because it would be humiliating to see the same people a month or so later, and not be where you said you would be.
I’ve tested this theory on myself – as well as on people I’ve coached. And let me tell you, this theory is just that. A theory.
In almost all cases, it doesn’t work.
The person doesn’t achieve his goals – and he doesn’t feel humiliated for failing to do so.
How can this be?
Are the gurus wrong?
Well, not entirely.
There is someone you’d be wise to talk to about your goals and plans.
Is this person a member of your family?
In some cases, yes. In most cases, no.
Members of your family are often-times the very ones who don’t want to see you succeed. They may be jealous of any success you achieve because it makes them feel “less than.” Or they feel “entitled” to a cut of what you produced.
Last year I coached a young man who works with family. He was a top producer in his company until an older sibling (who also works for the same company) took him aside and told him he’s not very good at what he does. He took the sibling’s words as fact – and stopped producing.
After one session with me he began excelling again. His family was surprised. So he told them about his breakthrough.
Immediately afterward he felt the “juice” leave him. He set up a session with me to find out what happened.
I got him back on the winning track – then I told him to re-read Chapter Six on a regular basis, that the message goes much deeper than talking about
goals and plans.
So, if not family, who do you talk to about your goals and plans?
Read Expect to Win – Hate to Lose and find out. Our newest printing is in – so place your order NOW.
Also, many of you asked about getting CDs of the book. Those are now in as well.
You can get all of them by going here …
Best,
Matt Furey
P.S. I’ll be having an Expect to Win – Hate to Lose seminar in Clearwater, Florida, November 4-5. Stay tuned for details.