Whew.
What a weekend. Just went through 3 days of training
with my Marketing MasterMind and Psycho-Cyb
coaching groups.
“Best meeting EVER,” were the words heard over and
over.
Two of the reasons for the incredibly productive meetings
were as follows:
1. I looked at mistakes I made last year as a coach and
vowed not to repeat them. One was being “too open” to
the suggestions of others. There is a fine line between
listening to someone who has good advice and getting
feedback that is intended to be destructive. Yes, some
people advise you on things they should not – and the
result – if you follow it – often spells doom.
2. I eliminated members who don’t listen, don’t follow
through, have advice for everyone but themselves;
have extreme arrogance issues, and those who are
envious of me or others in the group – yet want to be
the teacher.
Michael Storms, a long-time friend who is also a MasterMind
and Psycho-Cyb member sent me a quote yesterday that
I think you’ll find intriguing.
“You cannot be mentored by someone you envy or resent.
Effective mentoring requires you to be humble enough to
admire your mentor. Immature egocentric people can’t do
this and are destined to remain in their current state, and
cease growing.”
Wooo – that hit the nail right through the head.
As I taught yesterday, success comes from being willing to
look at and correct your mistakes. It does NOT come from
never making any mistakes.
Also, it is important to be aware of the people you have
around you. If you want to rise to new heights, you will
be stymied by those who are negative, envious, bitter,
resentful – and so on.
So choose your associates wisely. And if you’re a coach or
manager – choose your students and employees wisely.
In the event that you have bad energy around you – do the
right thing and remove it.
Don’t, however, do this once and think your job is done.
Continually look at mistakes. Continually look at who
needs to be replaced, dismissed or FIRED.
Failure to look at your mistakes dooms you to failure.
Failure to look at who you have around you dooms you
to remain like them.
Be back tomorrow with more.
Matthew Furey
Zen Master of the Internet