The other day a man in the gym I train at began
to tell me of his problems.
Good thing is we were at a gym where I could
stretch, breathe and concentrate on exercising.
As he focused and talked about his problems
I concentrated – without talking – on getting stronger
and more flexible.
I did not stretch to solve a problem or to get rid of
anything. I stretched because it helps me improve
upon and work toward a specific goal.
After nearly 10 minutes of yapping about his
problems, the man paused for a moment
to ask, “Well, what do you think?”
“This stretch is getting a lot easier,” I said.
“I like how you can choose a target, work
on it a little each day and see progress.”
The man didn’t know what to say. He stopped
talking – and as far as I’m concerned, that’s a
good thing.
Later in the day I saw him again and he
apologized for breaking Furey’s “No
Whining” Rule.
Now, perhaps the above may seem ‘insensitive.’
Yet, I believe it is almost always the best
medicine for people who talk about their
problems. If you can get people to stop telling
their “song and dance” – not just to you, but
to everyone else, too – they’d be a lot further
down the road of success.
When you speak of your problems you activate
your Automatic Failure Mechanism. Sure, you
may find people who offer you solutions to your
problems – but you’ll probably reject the advice
even if it’s good because you’d rather tell your
story.
A different approach is to give up problem solving
altogether and focus on being creatively alive.
You begin creating what you want in life, for no
other reason than you “want to.” You don’t do
anything because you’ve hit a pain threshold
that is somehow forcing you to move; not because
you have something to fix.
In the midst of painful problems, you can still engage
your Automatic Success Mechanism. You do this
by focusing on previous successes you’ve had.
You do this by coming to understand that you
attract more good to yourself by focusing ON the
good you’ve already got. Not by scratching and
clawing and nit-picking problems.
You attract more good by understanding how
life works. What you focus on expands. Positive
or negative.
Focus on problems – the Universe
hands you more. Focus on creative ideas (not
solutions) and the Universe sends
people, information, events and circumstances
your way to help you “make it happen.”
Not long ago I told a couple who is focused
on eliminating their “debt problem” that their
objective is off. Once they have eliminated their
debt – what do they have?
Nothing but eliminated debt. A big fat zero.
But what if, while in the midst of debt the couple
came up with creative ideas that made them
wealthy.
Ahhh – mucho differente – don’t you think?
My wife and I eliminated our debt years ago
with a combination of strategies – foremost of
which was putting aside something for ourselves
and “focusing” on the nest egg instead of the debt.
In the midst of major debt – we began creating
a wealth account. To feed the wealth account we
continually added 10% of everything coming our
way, regardless of bills. On top of this we came
up with creative ideas designed to “bring home
the bacon.”
It didn’t take long before our 10% became 20
and 30%. It didn’t take long before our wealth
account contained MORE than the idea or seed
of wealth.
So think – not of solving problems – not of finding
solutions. Think of creating your dream life.
As the Chinese people say, “Fei chang bu yiyang.”
Very, very different.
Best,
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