A great many emails came through the tunnel yesterday.
One from a man who says he wakes up in the middle of the
night, literally overwhelmed with negative thoughts and feelings.
Another from a member of the Psycho-Cybernetics Success Group
who has feelings of inferiority about “claiming” her previous successes
as “good enough.”
Let me begin by replying to the man:
When you wake up and you feel as if your emotions are running you
instead of you running your emotions, it is time to step back and
observe what you are doing to yourself. Begin to gently probe your
conscious mind with questions like, “What do I do to make myself
feel happy? To have peace of mind?”
Begin to make note of how your use your mind when you are at your
best.
Once you’ve done this, take note of what you are doing to yourself when
you feel less than good. Suppose you wake up in a state of panic or fear.
Instead of brow-beating yourself with “I shouldn’t be feeling negative right
now, this is bad” – simply ask yourself, “What am I doing to myself to make
myself feel afraid?”
Take note of how you’re breathing. Take a moment and change the way you
are breathing. Breathe the way you would if you were feeling confident.
Then make a choice to continue breathing that way and go to sleep.
What I have just told you is powerful – but nothing compared to what you’ll
learn when you’re a member of the Psycho-Cybernetics Success Group.
Enroll NOW by going to http://www.psycho-cybernetics.com/success_group.html
Now, let’s hear from one of my members, who wrote:
Dear Matt:
Thank you so much for your thought provoking e-mails and programs. I
have just joined your Psycho-Cybernetics Success Group and have received
my first news letter, scroll and meditation CD. They are terrific and
your piece on conquering your fears could not have been more timely.
Especially helpful and profound is the concept of remaining emotionally
detached to everything that comes to you (positive or negative). How
powerful is that!!!! I have already used that in many situations and
have been much more effective and successful in how I have been able to
interact with people who have been difficult in the past and how I have
approached sensitive situations. I believe that this one concept is going
to have a great impact on my success and my overall peace of mind.
Now my question: In the scroll you ask us to think of 5 times when we
worked hard for something and succeeded. I am having difficulty with
this even though by most standards I have been very successful in many
areas of my life and at most endeavors from childhood through adulthood.
My problem is that every time I think of something that could be called
a success, my mind immediately switches to why it wasn’t good enough. A
simple example is making Cheerleader in college. My mind immediately
goes to: “Yeah but I was really only selected as the alternate because
I choked in the try out and the team was nice enough to vote me on as a
permanent member.” I have done something similar with each example of
success that I can come up with. Any suggestions on how to overcome
this?
Thanks for all of your great work.
Regards,
Patricia
M.F. Patricia, one of the successes to add to your list is your uncanny
ability and willingness to put yourself down when you could be lifting
yourself up. Seriously. This might sound like a smart-aleck reply – yet
it’s the truth. This is nothing to be solved. This is not a “problem.” It’s
merely something you do.
Now, I’m sure, if as you stated, you’ve enjoyed much success throughout
your life, there is no reason to limit yourself to five successes. Let’s
blow this puppy out of the water, shall we? I’d like you to make a much
longer list – and each time you have a “that’s not good enough” thought –
remind yourself that success is what it is, regardless of all the other
factors.
For example, if I study Chinese and learn to speak it, which I have, I can
make up a story that the ONLY reason I’m able to speak Chinese is because
I was too stupid to learn Russian, or Arabic or French. Or I could tell myself
that the only reason I can speak it well is because hardly anyone else in the
U.S. will try. Yet – what possible good am I deriving from these detailed
assessments? None of them reflect reality. They are merely the telling of a
very bad and very boring story. I think you’re tired of hearing the old tales.
That’s why you’ve written to ask me this. Well, you’re now cured. Go in peace
and create everything you truly desire.
All for today – except another reminder to become part of the greatest self-
development movement under the sun. It’s rising like a phoenix from the
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