This is a story about crabs. Not the groteque skin-crawling
sort either. I’m talking about crabs you can actually trap
and eat.
Legend has it that when you place a whole bunch of crabs in
a bucket, invariably at least one crab will get the idea that
he should climb up the sides of the bucket and escape to
freedom.
Funny thing is, as soon as the courageous crab nears the
top of the bucket, all the other crabs conspire to pull it back
in. Hence, crabs never get out buckets.
This metaphor perfectly illustrates HUMAN behavior as well.
One of the things we like to do is categorize and slot. We like
to organize and ‘pidgeon hole.’ And once we’ve done this, we
can relax and pretend that all is well with our world.
But then along comes someone with NEW ideas and/or
aspirations.
Uh-oh. Alarms goes off. Bells sound.
‘What is this person trying to do. Who does he think he is.’
‘What’s up with her – trying to get herself fit. What are you doing –
trying to lose weight or something. Why are you doing all those
exercises – think you’re going to win the Mr. Olympia or
sumthun.’
‘Oh … NOW you’re doing bodyweight exercises. Whatsa matter,
weights too tough for you.’
And so on.
The guilt dispensing and shame mongering doesn’t end with
health and fitness either. It hits every facet of life.
The not-so-good news is that there will always be ‘crabs’ trying
to pull you back into the bucket. The GREAT news is that you’re NOT
a crab.
One of the things that I teach people is how to react to criticism.
Whenever a guilt dispenser comes along – either ignore him or
‘give thanks.’ Not kidding either. If someone sends you a nasty
letter – pump both fists above your head, look skyward and
celebrate. Doing so not only makes you FEEL good, but it
acknowledges that you’ve successfully climbed out of the bucket.
Believe me, after celebrating like this a few times, you won’t
even need to do so when the shame monger shows up. You’ll
instantly start feeling good because every cell in your body has
been programmed to respond to attacks with gratitude.
Tis an interesting thing, ya know. (Oh, by the way, did you know
that yesterday a man wrote me to say that my use of the word
’tis’ instead of ‘it’s’ is … feminine. Yippee, Hurrah, and Yahoo
for those ‘feminine’ words. Life would be boring if all I had at my
disposal were masculine words, ya know.)
Bottom line is this: The keys to success in life begin in your mind
first. And once you’ve succeeded in one area – you can and should
branch out and succeed in others.
That’s what I’ve done my whole life – and it’s what I teach in my
Magnetic Millionaire course – http://www.mattfurey.com/magnetic_millionaire.html –
Some have criticized me for teaching others something more than fitness – but
I’m not going to let THEIR limiting beliefs about ME influence my career.
Well, my friend, ’tis’ all for today – (that feminine word again).
Kick butt – take names!
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